Ordained To Be The Head; A Man As The Pastor Of His Home

Paul said, I'm going to preach the gospel as God has given it to me, and not just to please man. 1 Thess. 2:4. We are to live to please God and that includes how a man runs his home. You are entrusted to the word of God as the head of the home as Jesus is head of the church. Ephesians 5:25, Ephesians 6:4, Heb. 10:25.

Look around, we have a nation that has been compromised. But God has commands concerning the family. I see homes where the woman has taken on the role of head of the home. Believe me, I know this kind of preaching is not popular. But God's word stands whether its in season or out of season by man. This just goes to show you how far off we are in having Godly homes. I'm not giving you my opinion here, I'm giving you God's word on it. What we see in the natural as a real man is not what God's definition of a man as he sees him.

God is the ruler of the family. He's God the father, the son and the Holy Spirit. He has eight compounded names that shows you how high he is over his creation. He's Raphael, Redeemer, Jehovah, El Shadai, Savior, Lord, Elohim, King of Kings. And of him 1 John 5:7 says, "This is He who came by water and blood, Jesus Christ; not only by water, but by water and blood. And it is the Spirit who bears witness, because the Spirit is truth. And there are three that bear witness in heaven: the father, the Word, and the Holy Spirit, and these three are one."

So Jesus tells us in the above scripture Ephesians 5:25 and Ephesians 6:4 how the man is to love his family as Christ loves the church. Wives are to be submissive unto their husbands and that fathers are not to provoke their children. He is trying to tell us how to have a happy, contented family full of blessings and right living.

The world does not determine the foundation of the family.  That was already established upon God's creation in the garden of Eden, and what he establishes does not come in and out of season as societies like to determine it. God did not establish this family unit and its principles for fun, but so that all would go well in the family. His love for the family is not to be matched by anything else, that is why our covenant with Christ is so closely linked to the marriage covenant.

If you will get in the word and get up under a preacher that knows the word and is obedient to preaching it, you will get some doctrine that will save your family. God is the one who chose to make the man the head of the home. It is not because he is favored over the woman but because he is the stronger of the two and God has put a great responsibility on him in that role. God holds him responsible for leading his family into the paths of righteousness.

Men evaluate themselves by how good of a provider they are: his income, how smart his children are, and what people say about him. But how God sees him should be the most important, because God is never wrong. People judge your worth by measures that God does not. You may be all these things but they're worthless without God. You may be good but are you pleasing God or more concerned about self evaluations based on worldly image and material emphasis or how the world views you?

I'm going to give you some scripture of how man sees himself and how God sees him that you won't soon forget. He gives us this illustration in Revelation. I'm going to show you how you can not compromise the scripture without consequences with God.

Revelation chapter 2 and 3, says, These are the things that he has to say who has the seven Spirits of God and the seven stars." These are the churches and this is what he says. See if you find yourself somewhere in here. To the church of Ephesus (Rev. 2:5), "I know your works, your labor, your patience, and that you cannot bear those who are evil, and you have tested those who say they are apostles and have found them to be liars. You have persevered and not become weary.

Nevertheless, I have this against you, that you have left your first love and have fallen from my works." How many of us are doing our own works these days and hardly even take the time to praise him anymore but chase after our own dreams.

To the church of Per'gamos he says, "He who has a the sharp two-edged sword, and I know your works, and where you dwell, where Satan's throne is. You hold fast to my name, and did not deny my faith even in the days in which Antipas was my faithful martyr, who was killed among you, where Satan dwells.

But I have this against you, because you have there those who hold doctrine of Ba'laam, who taught Ba'lak to put a stumbling block before the children of Israel." Do we look the other way when we see sexual immorality among us and not correct it? Do we allow our children to run after idols of this world and pretend like that is okay and acceptable in our homes and in our churches?

To the church of Thy-a-ti'ra, these things says the Son of God, who has eyes like a flame of fire, and His feet like fine brass; I know your works, love, service, faith, and your patience. and as for your works, the last are more than the first.

I have a few things against you, because you allow that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, to teach and seduce my servants to commit sexual immorality and eat things sacrificed to idols. How many of our churches are run by Jezebels who cause division and have hurt and caused people to leave the church because there's more sin in the church than in the world?

To the church of Sardis, "These things he says, I know your works, that you have a name that you are alive, but you are dead, but you have a few left that have not defiled their garments."

Have you ever been to a church where when you walk in you feel death is all around spiritually, and the preacher gets up and says a few rehearsed words and you are dismissed so quick that if a lost person was in there he left lost too? That's the kind of church where they need to build an altar and all of them repent.

To the church of Philadelphia, "He who is Holy, He who is true. He who has the key of David, He who opens and no one shuts, and shuts and no one opens.You who have little strength. I will make those of Satan come and worship at your feet, and to know that I have loved you. You have persevered and I will keep you from the hour of trial that will come upon the whole earth to test those who dwell on the earth."

"Overcomers will take their crown and I will make him a pillar in the temple of my God and I will write my name on him."

I see the Christians that are of the church of Philadelphia, they are the ones who have no recognition in the church but are powerful prayer warriors, who open their mouths and declare the word of God over their situations and for others and see manifestation. They know who they are in the Lord and they know the word and use it to move mountains. They seek the Lord and inquire of him on everything, and they know their weakness and are made strong through His power.

To the church of La-o-di-ceans, "I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot. So then, because you are lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will vomit you out of my mouth. You say, I am rich, have become wealthy, and have need of nothing, and do not know that you are wretched, miserable, poor, blind, and naked.

The word has become dead to them, the heart is numb and they have no recollection of what the Lord did for them so long ago. They don't read the word, nor do they want a preacher full of the spirit to correct and shake them alive again. They are full of themselves and think they already know all truth, but discernment of the Spirit eludes them and they reject truth. They couldn't save a cat. This is the spirit of too many churches today.

You see, you may be thinking that you are running your church and home in a good way, as you see it, but until you have the word in you on what a righteous church and home is your idea of good could be filthy rags to the Lord.

There is a cost to compromising the word. But if you'll let God do it his way he will do some work on you. There will be a change in your life, you'll be filled with the word, sanctified and blessed. He'll make you flush all the filth out of your home and life. You'll press on to a high mark of the calling of God and you'll be a high priest in your home. You'll be freed because the blood will set you free.

It's not how much tithe you pay, what your position in the church is, or how loud you shout or how pretty you pray, but are you the leader and Pastor of your home first? God has given all man's ears unto his voice to comfort the hungry, to pray for the sick, to give guidance to loved ones you see going astray. This is what a pastor does in the church, are you doing that with your family?

Do you grieve when one stops coming to church? It's not an easy job to be a pastor. Men, you should be the same in your home. Your wife should be able to come to you with any need. You need to have your family in church. There is a real devil that is trying to destroy your home and your influence in your home.

Your walk with God should be affecting the US culture, not the other way around. Husband's love your wives as Jesus loves the church and gave himself for it. If he loves it so should we. He will wash you with the word and sanctify you. It's like putting you in one of those old wringer washing machines and turning you about this way and that until all the stains are white as snow.

If men would take the words of Jesus more seriously and their responsibility as the head of the home as he has given them it would change the church and the nation. We have to love the Lord to the core of our hearts, minds and souls. David stripped down to a linen ephod and danced like a wild man before his Lord.

I'm gonna look old David up when I get to heaven on Praise Ave and Worship Lane. I'm gonna say, come on let me show you my dance. Do you have a dance or song for him in your heart that is bursting out the seams? 2 Samuel 6:14 says, "they began to shout and dance before the Lord."

Michal, David's wife looked down on him and criticized him. She was a compromiser like her Daddy. She had the spirit of her daddy. See how profound we pass on our spirits to our children. 2 Samuel 6:18-19 says, after blessing the people David went to bless his own home. Even after taking care of all the business of Israel and God he didn't forget his own family.

What was it about David, was it killing Goliath, or being anointed King? No, it was his heart. It was after he took care of God's business he turned his heart toward his family. 2 Samuel 6:20. He was balanced in all his ways. Here is a balanced priority order; to God first, to your wife and children, then to the church. God doesn't want burnt offerings, he wants you. There is nothing better in the whole world than to hear your wife say, thank you for giving me a Godly home. There's nothing better when your children say, I love you daddy, thank you for directing me the right way.

It's okay for man to misunderstand you but God never does misunderstand you because he looks upon the heart. And if you'll look closely at his grievances of the churches you'll see that he is judging the heart of the people and not their works. What grievance would God have against you today as the spiritual leader in your home?

Tell your family, as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. That's what Joshua told the people of God when he became their leader. He didn't ask his wife and kids, do you want to go to church today? He understood his role as a leader of the house of God.

You are the one God will hold responsible, not your wife or children. If you know you're not ready to be the leader get under some right teaching by a Godly pastor who is the leader of his home and church that lives by the word and not the whelms of the world. God has anointed you to be the leader of your home.